Step on me. No really …
We all want to be loved and needed by those we care about. Being a doormat, however, isn’t a solution we recommend. Neither is bank-rolling your close
family and friend’s bills and vacations (*ahem* parents of dependent ADULTS). Instead of being loved and appreciated, you’ll end up being taken for granted, used, and used up. We believe strongly that when you overdo for someone, you rob them of the opportunity to rise to the occasion!
How do I know if I am codependent?
- Do you feel responsible for other folks’ problems?
- Do you feel the need to be needed?
- Do you expect others to make you happy and get mad when they don’t?
- Attention seeking? Sulk and hide when you don’t get it?
- Do you divide family and friends into two group: ‘with you’ or ‘against you’?
- Are your feelings easily hurt?
- Do you use self-pity and/or anger to control others?
- Do you feel like you need to rescue people from themselves?
- Do you struggle to get yourself out of known cycles that are bad for you?
- Do you split your time between ‘attentive and caring’ and ‘selfish and cruel’?
We want to help you end your codependent ways and get your mojo back. It requires just a little self-care to be autonomous and connected at the same time. We understand that voicing ideas, setting boundaries and keeping your swagger is tough. In fact it’s near excruciating some days, but it’s time you quit allowing yourself to be used and abused – or as they say in Texas, rode hard and put away wet.
A new, healthier you is just around the corner.
If you or someone you know struggles with codependency, we recommend the following LifeWorkers:
Please call or email LifeWorks for more information, or to make an appointment.
Resources:
COSA
S-Anon
Is My Husband A Sex Addict?
Co-dependents Anonymous
Celebrate Recovery – Codependents
